Dealing With Anxiety About Being Single
Sometimes being single can feel freeing or even empowering. You are free to do whatever you want, wherever you want to go, and whenever you want without worrying about what your partner is doing. But sometimes, being single does make you feel lonely or even anxious. Especially when everyone you know is getting into relationships and getting married.
Which is likely to lead us to make a hefty amount of poor and damaging choices and probably just swipe right on any guy on that dating app.
I mean, it does get tiring just to keep starting conversations or even being questioned about when you’re getting married.
You’d end up questioning yourself about what would happen to you or, if you’re like me, question about what’s wrong with you.
BUT being single doesn’t mean that you’re failing in life or that being in a relationship is an inevitable step to becoming a complete and happy person.
You are not being left behind, and as cliché as this sounds
That mindset is dangerous and would probably stress you out more.
But there have been ways to deal with the anxiety of being single, and we’re here to help you out.
There are things you can do to feel better about being single, even if you are battling with emotions of loneliness and wishing for a partner—or at least some romantic chances.
CHANGE THAT MINDSET
How you view your single status can have a significant impact on how you feel about being single.
At times because of that mindset, we start to feel lonely, and it starts affecting our state of mind, health, and well-being.
In a world where single people are stereotyped to be sad, lonely, and even insecure, and where you are pressured to find a partner at a certain age and start a family. It can greatly affect your mental health, which in turn makes you anxious just to find the next guy.
I mean, I get it; it’s romantic or sweet to have someone to talk to at the end of every day, knowing that they will love and comfort you.
As tempting as being in a relationship is, I personally wish I had that phase in my life. You know, being single for a while to learn and love myself the way I want to be loved.
So instead of focusing on why it’s “sad” to be single, focus on what you want to do, how you want to enjoy your life, your freedom, and most especially, knowing what you want in your next relationship instead of staying content with being treated with only the bare minimum.
When everyone posts their relationships on social media, it gets harder to stop comparing ourselves with them - because they do look happy.
Like that statement, “you don’t know what happens behind closed doors.” because what seems to be a perfect, happy, and fulfilling relationship on social media posts but it might look a lot different in real life.
And just because someone’s relationship is perfect for them doesn’t mean that that’s necessarily what you want. I mean, it does get us envious to be loved a certain way; it leads to making you feel as if you might not deserve that kind of love.
Which isn’t true.
You deserve to be loved the way you want to be loved, not loved because you’re available or you just want that quick love kind of relationship.
Honestly, I wish I wasn’t like this either. Despite being in a loving relationship, I still do compare myself and my relationship with other people's relationships. And based on what I learned, when you start comparing yourself with other relationships, you just get frustrated or even sad. So instead of comparing what other people have to what you have, to avoid feeling as if you’re failing, focus on finding your own happiness. Appreciate and celebrate your accomplishments. Focus on forming relationships with your friends, family, and most importantly, with yourself.
INVEST IN YOURSELF AND OTHER RELATIONSHIPS
I get it, the world makes it seem that the only important thing right now is to be in a relationship BUT instead of focusing on that, start investing in yourself.
Work on those goals you’ve probably listed during the start of the COVID pandemic lockdown. I know you also have them. You know the ones that you made for maybe your professional life, trying new hobbies, or your other bucket list.
Because studies do show that when you’re building your goals, it can make you feel more confident and empowered.
These goals that you made for yourself are your progress to the future you want, which in return will help you be able to see what you want in a life partner.
A WORD FROM THE AUTHOR:
You’ve probably heard this all the time, but life isn’t a race, and you don’t have to reach certain milestones like getting married at 28 or having a family at 30. You can always go at the pace you want to go.
Because trying to reach milestones that you base on other people will only get you frustrated and anxious more. Just because they seem happy, it doesn’t automatically apply that you would be happy if you were on the same timeline as them. You might struggle, be unsatisfied, or maybe even more anxious.
You are more than loveable, and you deserve what you want, and most importantly, you deserve to be happy. So when the time comes you’d actually want a relationship, there are plenty of people out there who share the same interests, and goals.