As the basic definition of people pleasers is that they seek validation, want everyone around them to be happy, and will do everything and whatever it takes to keep it that way.

People pleasers will go out of their way to please someone, even if it means that they have to use their own time or resources because, as to some psychologists, people pleasers often act out because of their insecurities and lack of self-esteem or possible perfectionists.

Unfortunately, it is somewhat of an addiction to some people because they seek constant validation just to make themselves feel that they’re needed and useful.

But we’ve got you covered, and we’re here to help you start saying “no” to others and saying “yes” to yourself.

Here are 5 ways to stop pleasing people:

The end game.

Unfortunately, it’s not the Avengers endgame, but it is the “does he see a future with me?” bit. 

If you’re looking for a long-term partner, and have been with someone for quite a while now, you’d start wondering if he sees a future with you.

Although it can be difficult to know what will happen in the future, relationships with uncertainties will surely make it bleaker.

And it's understandable that we start overthinking things especially when he’s serious (which is a story for another time). Although I cannot rid you of uncertainty and overthinking, but what I do have is a list of things that I can willingly share with you that made me understand how to read him if he was in it for the long run.

New relationships and honeymoon phases are just amazing. You get to go on a few dates, are all up each other with sweet text messages, give each other gifts, and constant attention, and even at one point bombard them with millions of text messages.

I bet you’ve also done these things during the first few days when we’re meeting someone new. But how do we know that the excitement and honeymoon phase ends and the potentially dangerous love bombing begins? 

At some point when we have just entered a relationship or even when our relationship starts becoming more serious, we start worrying about things like “What does he even like about me?” “Do I even like him/her?” “Did I make the right choice?” “How serious is this?” “Are we going too fast?” (maybe I should stop here before I start making you more worried).

And when these thoughts start to take over despite the assurance, we start feeling alone, and then we’d be too self continuous and start distancing ourselves from our partner. 

Now there are signs and reasons why you have relationship anxiety, here are a few things you’d have to be aware of and how you can overcome this

The world we live in today is so demanding and fast-paced that we sometimes feel overwhelmed, helpless, or even hopeless. Being stressed and overwhelmed 

There are many situations that can cause you to feel overwhelmed. In most cases, this occurs when the amount of stress in a situation just becomes too much for us to handle. In these cases, we try to experiment with things that help us calm down, and figure out what to do ne

But what if you’ve done that and still feel overwhelmed and maybe more hopeless? 

Another added dilemma.

Although, there can be a lot going on in our minds to make you feel everything all at once. Maybe you have to finish an important task for work or school or have been pressured to succeed in something, or even if you're waiting for that dreadful "you're accepted" or "unfortunately, we have to reject you" email or call. 

I mean, it is difficult to find ways to “fix” our anxious feelings and like anything, it doesn’t go away in a snap of a finger, but it does help us face these feelings slowly and easily.

Well, you’re in luck because we’re here to share a few steps you can do to calm yourself down.

It’s time for the “new year, new me” era, where we list a bunch of New Year’s resolutions hoping to actually achieve it but forgetting it on day 2.

It’s frustrating right?

I mean, why do we make New Year’s resolutions in the first place?

Because we’re mainly hoping to change (maybe even for the better), or maybe because we see the new year as a blank slate - to get this right this time.

Over the past years, our New Year’s resolutions haven't gotten past day 3 but maybe this time it can be different, and maybe we can help you get past it. I’ve found a few tips online that I definitely want to share with you that actually work.

Starting relationships and meeting new people can be quite difficult if you’re an oversharer (like me). 

You’d want them to see you in a good light, so during the first date or possibly the first few dates, you find yourself self-doubting and overthinking about what to share to break the silence. 

But the more you spend time with them and go on dates, the more your lives become intertwined, and sometimes it does get difficult to find what’s appropriate to talk about.

And because of that, you’d want to know what things count as oversharing or crossing the line with too much information.

Sometimes being single can feel freeing or even empowering. You are free to do whatever you want, wherever you want to go, and whenever you want without worrying about what your partner is doing. But sometimes, being single does make you feel lonely or even anxious. Especially when everyone you know is getting into relationships and getting married.

Which is likely to lead us to make a hefty amount of poor and damaging choices and probably just swipe right on any guy on that dating app.

I mean, it does get tiring just to keep starting conversations or even being questioned about when you’re getting married.

You’d end up questioning yourself about what would happen to you or, if you’re like me, question about what’s wrong with you.

BUT being single doesn’t mean that you’re failing in life or that being in a relationship is an inevitable step to becoming a complete and happy person.

You are not being left behind, and as cliché as this sounds 

That mindset is dangerous and would probably stress you out more.

But there have been ways to deal with the anxiety of being single, and we’re here to help you out.

There are things you can do to feel better about being single, even if you are battling with emotions of loneliness and wishing for a partner—or at least some romantic chances.

There are 2 basic emotions that are generally expected out of a romantic relationship, and oftentimes we take them for granted.

What do I mean?

I mean when we give too much of ourselves and do not receive the same amount of love or affection that they are giving us. You know, the bare minimum.

And even when relationships are already difficult to understand, feelings are kind of like a roller coaster ride. I’m 100% sure you’ve even experienced this. Have you ever liked someone for a while, and suddenly your feelings just went away? Or maybe even you’ve always wanted to be in a relationship with this one guy, and when you are, you just kind of start losing interest or stop making the effort?

It doesn’t necessarily mean that you must’ve said something or did something to make him lose interest (yeah, we’re overthinking again). But like in every relationship advice blog, the early stages of romance are kind of unstable.

What I mean is that at one point, all the romantic excitement just dies down, or that honeymoon phase just stops, and then they’d just start losing attention. 

That probably leads us to do something crazy just to try and reignite that spark/fire.

This is a pretty common situation to be in.

This is why you probably ended up reading this blog.

But, I have to ask. What do you want to do? How do you try to win back his attention?

You have those answers probably locked and loaded, or maybe you have no answers at all. There are no guarantees, but here are a few ways that you could do that you could encourage him to look your way again. 

When we start liking someone, we start being more aware and conscious about the things that we do or what we say.

And sometimes we kind of act a little weird. You know, the kind of not weird where we start making a fool of ourselves.

As much as we want to repress the memories of those times when we acted completely weird around the people we like, we can’t. Which is why I’ve made a list (at least the 5 weirdest things I’ve done that would most likely help people not make the same mistakes I did, because I really can’t embarrass myself anymore so I apologize for not going into detail).